Pounds and pensiveness
How much does the average woman think the innocence of her daughters is worth?
I'm a really empathetic person when it comes to other women. As much as I find Tracey Emin's 'art' hideous, I'll stick up for girls expressing themselves in any way they want (especially if it goes against gender sterotypes and makes people think), shout loudly against the glass ceilings and disparity of pay that still exists, positively scream my defence of mothers that want to be acknowledged for their role in bringing up the next generation without the aid of minimum waged childcare workers, champion and lead by example the single parent that's trying to have a life of her* own as well as nurture and educate her offspring on precious little funds. Sometimes though, a woman will do something that I just can't understand no matter how I try and see it from her place.
The day my step-father was arrested for abusing me and my sis he was escorted back to collect some belongings as the terms of his bail meant he couldn't live with my mother for the duration. She'd spent hours hearing all the gory details that she'd closed her ears to over the past two decades then been taken home so by the time he arrived she'd had quite a while to figure out a suitable reception. Did she scream at him? Leap at him with a kitchen knife? Spit at him, maybe? I'm sure anyone reading this can add to the list of what they'd do when faced with the man that abused their daughters, with or without accompanying police officers.
She gave him £5000. In cash.
My shock and disbelief are still kicking shit out of my empathy.
* Yeah I know, but for the purposes of this rant there are no male single parents, ok?
4 comments:
Oh my god, that is shocking. How awful.
Wow! what is with her? some women never get it. as long as uve got it, thats all u can hope for. i dont think u owe either of them empathy.
what a post to come read first time !! I have also read up on P - who i was falling in love with (most likely his cooking a roast did that!) until the "you've come on" incident that was really a drip. some men have a problem with it, its so weird. im assuming he is middle aged (i havent read ur blog back enough yet, sorry) as my experience is younger guys have been raised by women and arent so freaked by it. jeez, it happens as regular as once a month, get over it boys.
shit, that's harsh. perhaps the magnitude of this thing is just too much for her to deal with...too awful for her to face...not that that helps you. I do hope that she accepts it in time and acknowledges the impact it's had on you. You're a strong woman though FB, and for that I admire and applaud you.
Wow, what a crappy thing to do. It's like she is paying him off for her guilt of having blinkers on all that time. Well done for the two of you going to the police after all this time.
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